Eckhart Tolle answers questions about the issue of awakening & romantic relationships…

Hidden Passageways

I’d like to express a deep empathy for those submissives that search so hard to find someone who can take them where they long to go & still they may never find that person. The submissive energy is like the energy of Yin, & Yin cannot move without its equal counterpart of Yang. It appears to be the case that a good Dominant is hard to find & on both ends it really takes more than most are willing to give to reach the depths of authentic Dominance & submission. Still, so many try because something deep within us propels us to do so. Is it the egos endless search for self-satisfaction? or an inner calling to move beyond ourselves through some profound exchange with another?

For me, the power Mastery lies in virtuous qualities, not in manipulation. How can someone else get you to let go when they themselves fear letting go? How could one teach another to be selfless in action when they themselves have yet to discover their own selflessness? You of course must be wholeheartedly ready or no matter how skilled the Dominant is, they can do nothing for you. There is a back-door to Dominance & I have entered through a hidden passageway.. I have Mastered my own mind & therefore am capable of Mastering others. I have lost all fear therefore am able to push others past their own fears.. I have found the ecstasy inherent in every moment therefore am able to show it to others. I have broken through my own shell & dropped away therefore am able to break the shell of others, allowing them to drop away…. I am like a mirror into another… I spontaneously see what needs to happen & go there… but you yourself at least in part, must be ready to go there.

This approach I speak of is what I refer to as Positive Power Exchange; thusly it is based on help not harm. This is a call to all Dominants & submissives, Masters, Mistresses, slaves, & everything in-between.. Do not base your workings on the exterior appearance but look deep within. BDSM & Power Exchange is very powerful human expression. It can be a positive or negative expression or in rare cases it may be completely neutral. Although an activity may appear identical on the surface, it may be entirely different underneath, either expressing a positive charge or negative charge which will determine its effect of help or harm. Imagine yourself as a cup. Is your cup filled with nourishing liquids or toxic poisons? You must look inside with great honestly & clarity, for all things are connected & whether you see it or not, this is the cup that you share with yourself, everyone close to you & the entire World.

-Master Dvnt