Kinky is NOT a Diagnosis!
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Kinky is NOT a Diagnosis
NCSF is proud to announce that 3,241 people have signed the DSM Revision Petition from June 2008 to December 2009. The petition is now closed and has been sent to the American Psychiatric Association (APA) and the members of the Sexual and Gender Identity Disorders Work Group for the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM V). Thanks goes out to everyone who participated in this historic effort!
The diagnoses in the DSM-TR-IV subject people who practice BDSM, fetishes and cross-dressing to bias, discrimination and social sanctions without any scientific basis. NCSF often sees individuals who suffer distress and impairment in their social and occupational lives (ie. interpersonal difficulties) because their desires conflict with current societal standards. These standards stem in a large part from the DSM. itself: pathologizing unusual sexual interests has led to more discrimination and discouraged individuals from seeking treatment for physical and mental health problems. This codification of “cultural aversion” was the same reason that ego-dystonic homosexuality was included in the DSM, and then removed when it was finally recognized as such by the APA.
Some of the comments made on the petition include:
#604: “BDSM is no more an illness or dysfunction than boxing, skydiving or participating in any extreme sport.”
#1680: “I am all for removing these biases from legitimate psychiatry. It has ruined a friend of mine as for 8 years he has felt ashamed, depressed and self destructive because some “therapist” diagnosed him as sexually deviant and egodystonic and told him to repress his urges.”
#1902: “Psychiatry should serve human wellness, not police human diversity.”
#2224: “Historically, diagnoses of insanity have been used to marginalize those with unusual sexual preferences. This has to stop.”
#2566: “I just had an acquaintance lose custody of her child to her now-vengeful ex due to “kink” and a bad judge. It’s time to take more bias out of the DSM.”
“The politicization of sexuality is common in this country,” says Leigha Fleming, Board Chair of NCSF. “There is no basis in scientific fact for the categorization of BDSM and affiliated behaviors as inherently pathological or unhealthy. Social conservatives shouldn’t be allowed to carry their agenda into the DSM. It wasn’t appropriate when homosexuality was classified as a disorder by the APA and it’s not correct now for the DSM to classify consensual adult sexual expression like BDSM, cross dressing, etc. as disorder. The DSM was never meant to be a political weapon used to marginalize sexual minorities. The overwhelming response by our constituents necessitates our involvement in this critical issue.”
To see the hundreds of comments that petitioners made on the petition, click here: www.thepetitionsite.com/1/DSMrevisionpetition
To find out more about the DSM and the Paraphilias section, read the NCSF & ITCR: The Foundation for NCSF’s “White Paper on the DSM Revision” at www.ncsfreedom.org
For more information, email: susanw@ncsfreedom.org
February 2, 2010
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The APA Paraphilias Subworkgroup Agrees:
Kinky is NOT a Diagnosis
In the new proposals for the DSM-V, alternative sexual behavior has been depathologized. The American Psychiatric Association’s Paraphilias Subworkgroup’s DSM revisions acknowledge that you can be a fetishist, transvestite, sexual sadist or sexual masochist without having a mental disorder.
NCSF has worked very hard with its DSM Revision Project to make sure these changes take place, and will continue to strongly advocate for clear language of what exactly constitutes a mental disorder. Susan Wright liaisoned with the work group and supplied data that NCSF has gathered about the real-world discrimination and persecution that takes place against BDSM-fetish practitioners because of the DSM-IV-TR. The DSM Revision Petition was also extremely useful in generating comment from community members and mental health professionals urging that the current diagnoses be changed.
To see the proposed changes, go to:
http://www.dsm5.org/ProposedRevisions/Pages/SexualandGenderIdentityDisorders.aspx
Read the “Rationale” section under each diagnosis to see their thinking on the paraphilias. The work group makes it clear that “non-normative” sexual behavior is practiced by healthy people:
“The first broad change follows from our consensus that paraphilias are not ipso facto psychiatric disorders. We are proposing that the DSM-V make a distinction between paraphilias and paraphilic disorders. A paraphilia by itself would not automatically justify or require psychiatric intervention. A paraphilic disorder is a paraphilia that causes distress or impairment to the individual or harm to others. One would ascertain a paraphilia (according to the nature of the urges, fantasies, or behaviors) but diagnose a paraphilic disorder (on the basis of distress and impairment). In this conception, having a paraphilia would be a necessary but not a sufficient condition for having a paraphilic disorder.”
“These revisions will affect everything-child custody, job discrimination battles, and even help change the way society views us,” says Leigha Fleming, Chairperson and Director of Incident Response. “I think of all the people over the years who have had the DSM used as a tool of discrimination and punishment, and I’m proud of NCSF for continuing the fight to change it. This is the first step towards decriminalization of BDSM, which NCSF is pursuing with our Consent Counts project.”
The Paraphilias Subworkgroup is now reconsidering what constitutes “clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning” when determining a mental disorder. The DSM must make it clear that people do suffer distress and impairment because of the societal stigma against alternative sex, but that doesn’t mean they are suffering distress that is generated internally.
As part of the development process, the preliminary draft revisions to the current diagnostic criteria for psychiatric diagnoses are now available for public review and comment until April. Personal comments about discrimination and persecution are welcome additions to this commentary to continue to urge the work group to differentiate between sexual minorities and sex offenders.
Just as Norway recently joined Sweden and Denmark in removing consensual paraphilias entirely, NCSF continues to urge the complete removal of these paraphilias from the DSM. However like the incremental removal of homosexuality (to egodystonic homosexuality and then finally taken out in 1987) this is an important step for the BDSM-leather-fetish community.
NCSF needs your support to continue important projects like the DSM Revision Project that directly impact peoples’ lives. Please join NCSF to show solidarity! We do so much for very little money, and we need your help.
Please donate to NCSF now!
February 16, 2010
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National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF)
The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is committed to creating a political, legal, and social environment in the United States that advances the equal rights of consenting adults who practice forms of alternative sexual and relationship expression. NCSF advances the rights and advocates for consenting adults in the SM-Leather-Fetish, swing, and polyamory communities. We pursue our vision through direct services, education, advocacy, and outreach in conjunction with our partner organizations to directly benefit these communities.
Office: (410) 539-4824
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The problem with Stressin out
By · Comments3-1-2010
Its not the problem thats the problem….
Its how you handle the problem,, thats the problem … Ed ! (quote from Rubin & Ed )
and its SSSOOO TTRRRRUUUEEEE !!!
The feeling of resistance appears from time to time… and its in these moments thati need to remember to not be in opposition … be open … do not resist …but i do . and i’m sure my Master would be able to talk alot better about this than me.. at least about the positive parts.. i’m much more versed in the negative … neh saying !!

neh sayer
so today was one of those days … and i had a bit of trouble being accepting of some assorted “crap” and it got me to thinking about HOW to not be mad- resentful and then of course turn it back onto me … and i remembered some easy phrases that always seemed glib but are true !!

Just looking at the truth of the situation .. and not filtering through my interpretation … i can see that i pass judgement on how things are effecting me .. and i take my que from what i think things should be or what i would rather them be.. rather than just as they are .. and the wounds can hurt … and i get mad !!! but i see that this is really just my reaction to myself.. really really its just me …. GGGAAHHHH !!!!
so.. if it is just me .. i will choose to turn my frown upside down … and not react negatively and through fear … i resolve to continue on this path .. seeing myself without judgments and not judging others …
So… for this day i choose to let a smile be my umbrella ….
signed ~
slavemuuuuuun
Media Alert ~ Master and slave to Perform … “lovely”
By · CommentsMaster and i will be performing this weekend at the BNC Studio Party … i am really looking forward to doing something creative and FUN with my Master…
Plus W/we will be joined by my cute friend Kelly !!
It ought to be a rousing good time ….. See ya’ll there!!
Heres the invite ….
NEXT PARTY: SATURDAY, FEB 27, 2010!
BondageNightChicago is happy to present:
NAUGHTY @ the STUDIO
Guest Mistress: Mistress Cleo
Lovely performance by Master DVNT & mara moon
spins: Industrial & Electro
Where: The Studio
Location: Chicago, close to I90 / I94 / / Lake Shore Drive
Time: 11:00 P.M. – 4:00 A.M.
Munch: From 9pm-11pm, we are having a munch. If you’re interesting in attending, then please mention it in the e-mail.
Price: $20.00 Booze: BYOB Age : 21+
Parking: Free parking is located behind the dungeon space. Please note: The city of Chicago will tow cars off the streets, between 3am-7am. Here is a blog entry about it, located here: http://www.chicagonow.com/blogs/parking-ticket-geek/2009/11/orange-alert-winter-parking-ban-takes-effect-3am-tuesday.html
Toys: Bring Y/your OWN TOYS
Please read the Dungeon Party Etiquette Page Here.
Any signs of unacceptable behavior, you will be banned from future BNC events.
The Studio: http://thestudiochicago.com/
Meditation and jogging …
By · CommentsWhensday is ZaZen day …
Master went to practice at The Zen Buddhist Temple of Chicago this evening as He often does …
i chose to go to the gym to excercise .. and it crossed my mind that perhaps this wasnt the best choice for me … i started to question the brnefits of both .. and even Master commented that the gym is good for my body but meditation is better for my mind … hhhhmmmm… what to do ??
so i tried to. get the best of both worlds .. i jogged on the ttedmill while listening to “The drimking gourd ” !!! it is awesome to move my body and open my mind .. listening and absorbing while really breathing it in ..
i think i made the right choice .. at least for today !!
a gift from Master …
By · CommentsLast Saturday Master and i had an interesting day ….
W/we both went in for consultations for intensive tattoo work …i will be starting a full torso project in April ( just in time for my birthday) that will last about 3-4 seating’s!
i am very excited about this ! Though there were some “issues” around this project … W/we worked them all out …i will be seeing Jason Vaughn at Deluxe Tattoo… his work is amazing and he seems like a geniune guy ! i like him !!!
Master is also getting some tattooing done on His arms – He is working with a talented friend of his at Studio One tattoos in Pilsen… i will be buying Him this art work as a gift .. as He provides me with gifts everyday !
And speaking of gifts…. here is a picture of a gift Master bought me on Saturday … its a pretty little framed art piece .. and its symbolism is beautiful … i love it !!!

You have the key ....
But i also love that while W/we were purchasing this gift .. Master told the shop keep/artist that He is going to get the complimentary tattoo to match mine … i will get the lock .. and He will get the key !!! i am so excited and pleased that Master is actually going to get O/our key tattooed on Him !!!! it brings such a powerful feeling of joy !!!
Thank You Master !!!
BNC Naughty at The Continuum 2/20/10-reviewed
By · CommentsMaster and i had a really great time last night … it was nice to get out to the dungeon and enjoy some sexxxy bondage FUN !!
We saw several of O/our pals and had some nice chats… catching up and shooting the sh*t !
Master was in a really great and playful mood and i felt wonderful energy between U/us … it felt like W/we were connecting and that He was liking me … and wanting to play with me …, i really appreciated that !
W/we did a HOT and painful rope suspension that was SSSSOOOOO TTTIIIGGGHHTTTT … i swear that He makes it tighter and tighter everytime… but i love it ! Its like shibari forced yoga ,,,,

i <3 shibari
O/our second scene was really sexxxxy and made me want to Sirve my Masters cock… right there at the dungeon … He was caressing my bound breasts and touching me all over and kissing me.. and biting me… OH mY !!! it was really hot… and then He flogged and beat my thighs and buns… they were on fire !!! i have beautiful bruises on my thighs … so HOT !!! He brought me to my breaking point though i did try to resist … He made me cry and whimper like a baby (though thats not all that hard for me
…. i love the way he plays with me … i love Him .. with all my heart – mind and body !!

But the BEST part of the evening was the pounding sex W/we had when we got home …. with my chest harness still on from the party… my Master had me on my knees… Sirving Him like i do best … then giving Him my all … to satisfy His desire … He was like a battering ram …. honestly … it was the hardest fuck i ever had … i was loosing my mind !!!!
Then the evening came to a close as i snuggeled up next to the love of my life … and held Him close in O/our bed … feeling Him and smelling Him and experincing the moment … in true LOVE.

two hearts
Thank You Master …
BNC Private Dungeon Party Tonite*
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2-20-10 Bondage Night Chicago Private Dungeon Party Tonite!
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Look’n forward to see’n all my great kink friends there.. & sling’n my ropes*
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There’s still time to RSVP!
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PS………………..
I love muunbeems*

2-14-2010

So this is slightly exiting…
Our local Chicago MAsT (Masters & slaves Together) Pansexual Chapter which has decided to do tonites meeting on the subject of “Meditation & finding the present moment”.
I wasn’t even present when this choice was made :p & I was asked to do an intro & instruct on zen meditation & another fellow will be instructing on a non-Buddhist orientated meditation of some kind. Sorry for posting this last minute for anyone who’d like to attend.. Ive been busy with work & thus have had the chance to post it only as of now. This will be my 1st time doing formal zazen instruction… So wish me luck!
-DVNT | Fugon
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Web Site: www.WindyCityMAsT.com – for updates and meeting notices!
The next MAsT meeting is Friday, February 19th at 8:00 P.M. and will run until approximately 10:00 P.M. The doors will be open at 7:00 P.M. if people want to come earlier ~as always, bring snacks
This Month’s Topic:
Meditation and finding the Present Moment!
There are many motivations for meditating. For some it’s to lower one’s blood pressure, for others to reduce stress… some want to gain knowledge, others wish to use it to give up compulsive actions… and the list goes on.
Both Masters and slaves Dominates and submissive’s can benefit from meditation and finding the present moment.
Reduced Stress and Create Inner Peace
Meditation helps to reduce stress by teaching us to switch off from the worries and thoughts that can plague us through the day. Meditation is an opportunity to spend time by ourselves. Spending time quieting the mind and focusing on the present moment makes us more relaxed and effective decision makers allowing us to focus.
Control Your Own Thoughts
Man has conquered space, and numerous other challenges, but are we able to conquer our own mind and thoughts. How often do you find yourself victim to your own negative thoughts? Meditation teaches that not only is it possible to control our thoughts, but we can learn to stop them completely. Through meditation we can bring our unruly mind under control.
Is there anybody who does not, in some way, seek after happiness? Meditation takes us to the source of happiness, which is to be found in our own peace of mind. If we have no peace of mind and are constantly attacked by negative thoughts, happiness will remain elusive, no matter how successful we are in daily lives. It is perhaps hard to imagine that happiness can occur from the simple act of being. However, if we can meditate with a still mind, we will discover an unexpected source of happiness within our own self. Meditation shows us that happiness is not dependent on outer circumstances, but on our inner attitude.
Spontaneity and Creativity
When we live in the thinking mind, we are usually preoccupied with the past or future. When we spend our energy on the past and present we cover up our natural spontaneity and creativity. We may feel we have neither creativity or spontaneity, but, if we can learn to silence the mind, we realize that we have far more potential than we currently believe. To access this source of inspiration we just need to quiet the mind. Some of the great thinkers and scientists were able to make important discoveries when they could absorb themselves in their work, to the exclusion of all else. Meditation helps us to live in the current moment, and thus can help us to unlock our creative potential.
Note
Master DVNT and Sir Jim will offer a few meditation practices and we will practice some of the methods, please bring a pillow to sit on for meditation session.
The original VD …
By · CommentsTo my Master ~
from 2007 to today … Happy Valentines Day …

my first valentine i made for You...
still l8ve You , Master .
forever and forever.
Your good little bad girl
Valentine’s Day is a special day observed on 14th February every year that celebrates love and affection. On this day people send greetings cards called ‘valentines’ to their sweethearts, friends and even members of their families. Many valentine cards have humorous pictures while others contain romantic verses. Many cards have common phrase as, “Be my valentine.”

To my Valentine
Valentine’s Day is associated with St. Valentine, believed to be two martyrs of the early Christian Church. However, very little is known about these two martyrs except the fact that the Roman history of martyrs mentions about two saints named Valentine who were martyred on 14th February. Scholars have found it quite difficult in finding the authenticity of the legends associated with St. Valentine.

St. Valentines Effigy
There are few legends that associate the name of St. Valentine with love and affection. According to one legend Valentine was a priest in Rome during the third century. When the Emperor of Rome, Claudius II planned to have a powerful army, he felt that young unmarried men would become better soldiers than those who had wives and children. Thus, the emperor issued a decree prohibiting marriage for young men. Realizing the injustice of the decree, Valentine continued to perform marriages of young lovers in secret, thus defying the royal decree. When it was found by the emperor that Valentine was violating his decree, he ordered the execution of Valentine.

secret love
According to another legend, Valentine was in fact the first one to send the ‘valentine’ greeting to someone he loved. It is believed that while in prison, Valentine fell in love with a young girl, probably one of the daughters of the jailor who used to visit him during his imprisonment. Before he was put to death on the orders of Emperor Claudius II, it is said that Valentine wrote a letter to the jailor’s daughter and signed it as ‘From your Valentine,’ an expression that is still in use today.
Another story says that Valentine was an early Christian who made friends with many children. When the Romans imprisoned him as he refused to worship their gods, the children missed Valentine and tossed loving notes through the window of his cell. This story explains why people exchange messages on the Valentine’s Day. Another tale narrates the fact that Valentine restored the sight of his jailor’s blind daughter.

St. Valentine
Though there is no historical proof behind these legends associated with Valentine, with the passage of time the legends popularised the name of Valentine as the one who was sympathetic, heroic and romantic figure. As the legend of Valentine grew, St. Valentine became one of the most popular saints in France and England during the medieval period.
There is no unanimity among different scholars as to how and when Valentine’s Day originated. Some trace it to an ancient Roman festival called ‘Lupercalia’. Others link it with one or more saints of the early Christianity. Still others connect it with the old English belief that birds choose their mates on 14th February. Most probably, Valentine’s Day came to observed due to the combination of all three of these sources. Besides, spring is considered as a time for lovers.
Many believe that the Christian church may have decided to celebrate Valentine’s feast day in the middle of February in an effort to ‘Christianize’ celebrations of the Roman pagan feast ‘Lupercalia’ festival. In ancient Rome, February was the official beginning of spring and was considered a time for purification. Houses were ritually cleansed by sweeping them out and then sprinkling salt and a type of wheat throughout their interiors. Lupercalia, which was celebrated on 15th February was a fertility festival dedicated to Faunus, the Roman god of agriculture, as well as to the Roman founders Romulus and Remus.

Pagans at work
To begin the festival, members of the Luperci, an order of Roman priests, would gather at the sacred cave where the infants Romulus and Remus, the founders of Rome, were believed to have been cared for by a she-wolf or ‘lupa’. The priests would then sacrifice a goat for fertility, and a dog for purification.
Following this ritual, the boys would slice the goat’s hide into strips, dip them in the sacrificial blood and move around the streets gently slapping both women and fields of crops with the goat hide strips. The Roman women welcomed the gentle whipping by the boys as it was believed that the strips would make them more fertile in the coming year. According to legend, later in the evening all the young women in the city would place their names in a big pot. The city’s bachelors would then each choose a name out of the pot and become paired for the year with his chosen woman. These matches often ended in marriage. It is said that Pope Gelasius declared 14th February as St. Valentine’s Day around 498 A.D.

Lupercalia
The earliest records of Valentine’s Day in English tell that birds chose their mates on that day. Geoffrey Chaucer, an English poet of the 1300’s, wrote in ‘The Parliament of Fowls,’ “For this was on St. Valentine’s Day, /When every fowl cometh there to choose his mate.” Shakespeare, the famous English play write also makes a reference to St. Valentine’s Day in his play ‘A Midsummer Night’s Dream.”
By the middle of the eighteenth century in England, it was common for friends and lovers in all social classes to exchange small tokens of affection or handwritten notes. By the end of the century, printed cards began to replace written letters due to improvements in printing technology. Readymade cards were an easy way for people to express their emotions in a time when direct expression of one’s feelings was discouraged. Cheaper postage rates also contributed to an increase in the popularity of sending Valentine’s Day greetings.

Valentine Bird
Americans probably began exchanging handmade valentines in the early 1700s. In the 1840s, Esther A. Howland of Worcester in Massachusetts became one of the first in the United States to manufacture valentines in 1847 after seeing one from England. She began to make samples of the valentines and took orders from stores. Later, she hired more hands to produce valentines on a large commercial scale. Since then handwritten valentines have largely given way to mass-produced greeting cards and Valentine’s Day has become the second-largest greeting card-sending holiday in the United States after only Christmas.
Many valentines of the nineteenth century were hand painted. Some of them featured a fat cupid or showed arrows piercing a heart. Many cards had satin ribbon or lace trim. Others were decorated with dry flowers or other fancy items. From the mid-nineteenth century till the beginning of the twentieth century many people used comic valentines called ‘penny dreadfuls’ as these cards were sold for a penny and featured certain insulting verses. Modern Valentine’s Day symbols include the heart shaped outlines, doves and the figures of the winged Cupid.

Cupid
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xoxoxox- mm
and the road goes on forever…
By · CommentsFeb 6 2010…
The continuos road unwinds …..i don’t stand at a cross roads.. for my path has no deviation … i dont see a spur … i don’t see on off ramp … i am on my path … the one that has lead me into town… and will take me out when the time is right. In the dark of night or brightness of light.. i step ever forward on my path.

the road behind
Feb 6 2010…
i look back … i glance at that stretch of road behind.. and i see joy and pain as well.. i wear the marks of those dichotomous moments like some fools flag .. i speak specifically about a tattoo i have on my neck.. that at the time seemed perfect … and it was .. and it is ..but now is ripe for transformation … Master and i have been deciding what to do as a new neck tattoo for a long time… and now the time has arrived …. what the end result will be is a beautiful unknown.. but the new mark will be a prideful reminder that all things pass… even a love that you thought would never die can wither and turn sour in a blink of times eye.

The road of NOW
So that brings me to examine my intense draw to be marked and/ or branded in honor of my Master .. i would really love to get a devotional marking for Him.. but for just a moment i recall the unflinching conviction i felt as i committed to a big ol name across my neck .. and i see my self projecting into the future … is this unwise ?? and i say NO !!!! it isnt stupid nor was the tattoo i have now wrong … i believe in the righteousness of my path .. and see no “problems” or fear in this …. so i will move forward in the honor of this moment … and create a mark that celebrates the phoenix rising- the Sun shining and the moon never dieing.

in His honor … i devote my flesh and bones ,,,
to Him ~ to the Universe.
at the Brink of a Cross-Roads….
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Back in Chicago….
Nice to be here*
Work has currently calmed down for me right now.
At the brink of a cross-roads….
Life is utterly beautiful… with endless probabilities…
Abandoning all barriers of self…
….the shadow drops away.
No fears.. No doubts… No longing.. No anger or anguish… No regrets.. No anxiety, mental afflictions or disturbances… No anticipations or expectations.. No unfulfilled desires… No wishes, no wants, or not-wants…
A living verification that underneath it all, you are the Buddha.
I feel translucent…
Just here.. All embracing…
With open hands,
Open Heart,
Open Mind.
With nothing to cling to, this body is clear like sunlight shining through untainted waters.
I see this light in all things…
I see no-thing at all.
I am the birds..
I am the blade of grass…
I am the Cosmos…
..in the spiders web.
I am the voice residing in every heart…
I am the darkness you can not see…
I am everything you have known, & not known…
I am like the captive, yet completely free.
Just let the current flow*
Like a leaf in the wind,
Life carries this body wherever it may go.
Actually every moment is a Grand Cross-Roads….
Actually every moment is only one moment….
Actually there is no moment at all…
no time at all.
No cross-roads at all.
Unfathomable to the human mind…. such awing power this holds.
How can I express to you what I see? It is such an impossible task…
Nothing to know…
Yet I know…
I know it must be.

-Master DVNT | Sou Fugon
Zen and slavehood





THANXKINKING EVENTS...